Monday, February 4, 2013

Adjustment and Accountability

My last post was Sunday, January 13, 2013 – exactly 3 Sundays prior to today. 4 days after I posted, my new husband and I were finally able to end our short stint of living apart and officially merge households. And you haven’t seen as much as a comma from me since then, right? Right! So much for my goal of filling my 2013 calendar with at least one post a week.

It’s not like I don’t have stuff to talk about, stories to tell or just things to say, you know? I do. I always do. Ask my husband; he’ll tell you. Lately, however, I’ve spent more time talking, telling, or saying all those things in my head (and, maybe, in a journal) but not to you. Please forgive me.


Life is sprinkled with seasons of adjustment, and needless to say the early days of marriage is one of those seasons. In addition to trying to figure out how to maintain my quirky eating habits, how to still get to bed at a decent hour and how to share a bathroom with a man (now, THAT’s a hard one), I’ve also been struggling to find a new writing rhythm that flows with the current of this new season in life.


In a season like this It certainly helps a lot to have people around you who will hold you accountable to the work they know you must do.

“You didn’t do your blog this week…” 7 little words one of my girlfriends very casually slipped into the end of an email to me.

“Do I look like a piece of paper to you,” my husband questioned as I favored sneaking kisses to the evening writing session I was supposed to have. That was one day last week. I did finally relocate to another room to try to write, but unfortunately nothing materialized from my efforts. Oh well. At least I tried, right? I’m so thankful to know there are some who have my back, though. Because of them, there was no way I was going to miss another week.

So here I am today – thinking about adjustments and accountability. So may I ask a favor of you? As I continue trying to adjust to this beautiful new season, may I ask you to hold me accountable. In the far right corner of the top tool bar is a contact option. Feel free to send me a gentle nudge or two (or TEN) every now and then if you sense I may be slipping. Every little bit helps, right?

Is there something new going on in your world that’s causing you to have to adjust? What’s falling by the wayside in the meantime? Who is (are) your accountability partner(s)? I’d love to hear about it.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Reflecting on the Day I said “I do”

I just finished watching a slideshow of pictures from my wedding day. It was a beautiful day! We couldn’t have planned it better. The weather was sunny and cool, not cloudy, cold or frigid. The high reached the low 60s. We had a brunch time ceremony, with a start time of 11:30 am, and YES we started on time. I can’t stand waiting, and I certainly didn’t want people waiting on me. Starting on time was a non-negotiable. Confirmation that it would indeed be a lovely day came when my groom was pulling up outside as I was walking into the church. Yes ma’ams (and sirs, because I know some of you are sneaking a peak at this blog, too :-)), we didn’t come to play. We had some business to tend to.

I didn’t sleep well the night before. In the wee hours of the morning I woke up in a panic. Like a dog chasing her tail, I tossed myself around on my hands and knees in the middle of my hotel bed looking for my cell phone. It was 3ish in the a.m. Whew! I could have sworn I saw the sun laughing at me through those blackout curtains signaling a missed 6a.m. hair appointment, but alas it wasn’t so. Needless to say, trying to get any sleep from that point was a useless endeavor.

Watching the slideshow brought some less joyful, untapped emotions of my wedding day storming to the surface. I guess they’ve had enough and refused to lie dormant any longer. I did cried that morning, a little, but I knew there were more tears where those came from. There wasn’t one nervous bone in my body as I walked that 100 foot aisle to the altar. I knew I was at the right place at the right time, and we were surrounded by our closest friends and family on both sides. Sadness stirred as one by one I saw the faces of my father’s friends. Somehow each of them seemed to be perched right along the aisle. Tears began to breach the borders of my eyelids, but I held it together for the most part.

So I knew this wasn’t the end of the story. In my hotel room that morning, I prayed. I told the Lord, “I still don’t get it, but I’ll go on.” I was talking about the fact my father wasn’t there. One of his very best friends gave me away. It was a beautiful thing, and I know my father was happy I chose him. There was no better choice, but a substitution no matter how appropriate is still a substitution.

Today, it finally hit me. I am the 3rd of 4 girls. Daddy was present for the marriage of each of my 3 sisters. For many years I prayed he’d be present for me, as well. Maybe subconsciously I knew he wouldn’t be. I don’t know. Although sometimes I don’t understand God’s timing, will and ways, I will go on. I must go on.

Looking at that slideshow reminded me just how beautiful our wedding day truly was. Sean and I have chatted quite a bit about our inability to take credit for the abundant blessings that worked together to create such a beautiful occasion, not to mention the work of the Lord that brought us together. We are humbled and thankful. If the Lord wills, there’s a whole lot of life left ahead of us, and I know daddy would want me to soak it all up. That’s exactly what I plan on doing.

“You are safe in my heart and my heart will go on and on.”

Daddy, this song is for you.





Wednesday, November 14, 2012

On the Road to the Altar: 10 Days and Counting…

Wow, I can’t believe my last post was at 32 days. Where in the world did the time go? As I’m writing this evening, Wednesday November 14th, I have just over 3 hours left to go before I am officially 10 days away from the BIG day. The countdown is not just on, we are steamrolling toward the day we say, “I do.” I just chuckled when I typed those two little words.

Side note (SN): Has anyone seen the Xfinity commercial for readable voicemail(VM)? The dude at a wedding reads his VM that appears as a text message from a friend asking if he wants “to go to the game tonight,” and he exclaims, “I do” out loud, in the middle of the ceremony? I’m sorry, but that commercial makes me LOL each time I see it.

Ok, silliness aborted… 😉

The past few weeks have been quite busy. One highlight is we got our marriage license. WOW! That was pretty cool. It still feels a bit surreal.

On Monday November 5th, Sean and I started a concentrated time of prayer. We’re supplementing our prayers with reading God’s word on marriage, love and marriage and marriage and commitment (topical bible reading plans courtesy of YouVersion for iPhone) to cover a couple of weeks. Obviously marriage is the theme here. Sean would text me a one word prayer focus for each day. He emailed all of them to me a couple of days ago, and it dawned on me that I should invite you to pray with us.

The prayer focus for today (11/14/12) is obedience.

Scripture reference for today (from YouVersion‘s Marriage and Commitment reading plan) comes from 2 John 1:5:

Now I ask you, lady, not as though I were writing to you a new commandment, but the one which we have had from the beginning, that we love one another.” (emphasis mine)

Love one another… Now that’s a pretty simple command to obey, don’t you agree?

Since starting this last Monday, I have truly enjoyed the time of prayer and being mindful of God’s word on marriage. It has given me much to ponder as I journey these last few days on the road to the altar. On some days the Lord has enlightened me in the most unexpected of ways.

That’s why I thought it’d be great to invite you to share this time with us for the few days we have left. We will be finished this Sunday, the 18th. I would love it if you’d use the word for the day and pray for your marriage (if you’re married) and marriages around you. Lord knows we all know marriages need prayer. If you’re unmarried, it’s certainly ok to pray for the marriage you hope to have, one day. I used to do so all the time. Just take the word of the day and ask the Lord to show you what He would like you to see in His word and in His will for your marriage, your family, and your life. His response to you may surprise you. I know He’s surprised me quite a bit.

Now I would like to believe I’ll have time to come back and post the word of the day each day. Sounds simple enough, right? Well, instead of setting myself up for almost certain failure, I will list all the prayer topics – past, present and future – below. Please join us in prayer. I would, also, love for you to share what is revealed to you in the comments. And if you have special prayer requests, by all means share them there, as well. I’d love to pray for you.

11/5/12: Faithfulness
11/6/12: Forgiveness
11/7/12: Vision
11/8/12: Understanding
11/9/12: Patience

We sorta, kinda skipped the weekend. 🙂

11/12/12: Strength
11/13/12: Trust
11/14/12: Obedience
11/15/12: Stewardship
11/16/12: Wisdom
11/17/12: Courage
11/18/12: Peace

Until next time (hopefully before I tie the knot)…

P.S. I’d count it quite a blessing if you’d include Sean and me in your prayers, as well. Talk to you soon.